The moment a person starts on the path to self-discovery, to find themselves, they never look back.
Because, besides being eye-opening, it is very beneficial to the sojourner.
Self-discovery means many things. It means finding your purpose in life because we all do have a purpose, it means digging deep into your childhood and revealing the experiences that shaped you… good and bad. It means realizing what your beliefs are and living/sticking by them.
And the effects of self-discovery are very self rewarding, it includes clarity, happiness and fulfillment. What could be better!
The journey however is not always an easy road as it includes fear, confusion, misunderstanding, doubt and literally re-visiting all your choices in life, a complete cleanup of the mind and even letting go of some people whom you hold dear.
Also, it requires making some tough decisions and sticking to them. Sometimes, you will have to make enemies in the process because discovering yourself also involves not being at the mercy of others.
While I was growing up, i know someone who was very intelligent but terribly shy and he kept these set of friends that knew his weakness and preyed on it.
Everything he did, he relied totally on them. Before he would volunteer for anything, he had to make sure they were also participating. He was practically their slave – in making other friends, believing their definition of who he was, general participation in everything, even to the point of academics.
Then boom, one Summer holiday, he returned and never remained the same. He took charge of his life and this would later make him be the Head Boy in our final year of secondary school. You can only imagine how his former friends were pissed! They had lost control, he was finally out of their grip.
At the time, I didn’t know what self-discovery was or the pattern it followed, I just knew i liked what I saw and that everyone should imitate such; be the boss of their own life.
Some of us are in jobs, relationships, friendships because of the lies we tell ourselves and those we were told by others which have come to make home in our heart.
The journey of self-discovery involves telling yourself the truth, admitting your feelings and fears.
You are in charge of your life and only you hold the power to direct it to wherever you choose. Discover your purpose, not what someone feel you ought do.
Have the power to say No and mean No! Don’t be a walkover, you weren’t created for that.
Be yourself ultimately and create that impact you were made for, then watch the Universe turn everything around in your favour.
When I discover who I am, I’ll be free ~ Ralph Ellison.
Freedom of the mind, body and soul.
I wish you all a fantastic week ahead.
Remember that today sets the pace for the entire week, so please, by all means, start right and make it count.
Love Always… M.