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Tuesday Motivation: The virtue called independence

Independence is a requirement for leading your own life. How independent are you?

The value of independence

How can you make decisions if every action you take has to be filtered through other people first? Without independence, you can’t be the captain of your life. You must be satisfied scrubbing the decks while someone else sets the direction you’re to follow.

Independence doesn’t mean you do not need other people. Most people wouldn’t last a year stranded on an island without help from anybody. Independence means that you add at least as much value back as you take from every transaction. You don’t leave a permanent debt between you and another person.

Debt is Dependency

When you build a debt with another person, you lose your independence. If you require another person to support you, that person has power over you. They can withdraw their funding based on your actions, effectively controlling your life. Even if they are benevolent, they may unconsciously use their power to influence your decisions.

If your transactions are fair, you retain your independence. I’m not dependent on a grocery store because, if they decide not to feed me, I can take my money elsewhere. Since it is an equal trade, there is no imbalance of power.

Independence is More Than Just Money

The debt that dependency creates doesn’t just have to be in finances. You can be completely financially independent, but entirely socially and intellectually dependent on other people.

Financial independence is important.

Requiring money from other people to live isn’t ideal. Even if you are dependent on a spouse, family member or the government for an income, it shouldn’t become a permanent situation.

If everyone became financially dependent on another person, the economy would collapse. Independence isn’t just a personal virtue, it’s a moral virtue. Avoiding debts with other people makes you in control over your own life. Independence also makes you a creator instead of a user. By putting back at least as much as they are taking, independent people ensure the world stays in balance.

Financial independence, and the consequences of financial dependence are easy to understand. It doesn’t take a leap of thinking to realize that if everyone drains more money than they create, the world will collapse.

Social and intellectual independence are harder to see. But, I believe that they are even more important than financial independence. If you are financially dependent, another person has control over your body. They can decide whether you eat or starve. If you are socially or intellectually dependent, another person has control over your mind and soul.

Social Independence

Money isn’t the only currency people use. Sure, it’s the only kind you carry around in your wallet, but it is only one form of transactions. Social currency is another method of transactions. It is the currency of relationships, friendships, loyalty and service to other people.

Just as you can be financially dependent, you can be socially dependent. This means you are emotionally dependent on the opinions of the people around you. You care what other people think of you. Worse, you use their whims and biases as a foundation for making decisions on how to live your life.

Someone who is socially dependent can never be authentic. Instead they must constantly ask themselves whether what they are doing is popular or fashionable. I’m sure we both know people who fit this model. They are the people who care more about being liked than being themselves.

Independence here means the same thing it does with finances. It doesn’t mean you don’t need people and are happy living alone. It simply means that the relationship value you contribute outwards at least equals the value you take away. You aren’t dependent on the opinions of other people because you can just as easily make new friends.

The value of independence

A person who has complete social independence feels free to leave friends and relationships that demand too high a price.

Intellectual Independence

Intellectual independence is the most important form of independence. While it might not be easy, you can move from a position of social and financial dependence to one of independence. As long as you can make decisions for yourself, you can move closer towards complete independence.

Intellectual dependence happens when you stop thinking for yourself.

Intellectual independence means you are willing to experiment, explore and leave no stone unturned in the search for understanding. You don’t avoid ideas that don’t fit neatly into your worldview, you embrace them. You think through ideas yourself instead of blindly accepting pre-digested facts from other people.

Like all forms of independence, intellectual independence is both a personal and a moral question.

Independence is a Personal Virtue.

When you have independence, I believe the next step is to encourage the independence of others. Think your own thoughts, live your own life, and help others to do the same.

Good morning and a wonderful Tuesday to you. Go make it work!

Love Always… M.

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Ladies, see 9 things your b00bs are saying about your health

They come in all shapes, sizes and colours.

9 things your BOOBS are saying about your health

And chances are you don’t give yours much thought from day to day.
But, it turns out that paying a little more attention to your lovely lady lumps could prove very important… for your overall health.

9 things your BOOBS are saying about your health

Every woman’s breasts are different – so it is vital to understand what’s “normal” for you before you start checking what the size, colour, and feel of your boobs could really mean.
Breast cancer is one thing all women are aware of, and the NHS encourages you to check regularly for the signs and symptoms of the disease.
But there are a few other things to watch out for which are listed below:

1. They’ve got bigger
OK, it might be every girl’s (and her guy’s) dream, but if your boobs have grown it could be reason to worry.
Like it or not, breasts are mostly just fatty tissue, and so a bigger rack is probably just a sign you’re piling on the pounds.
But there could be another reason: it could be a sign of the pitter-patter of tiny feet.
As well as fat, breasts are also made up of milk ducts.
When a woman becomes pregnant, the milk ducts in their breasts begin to swell to get ready for breastfeeding.
And most women who are taking the Pill will notice that where they are in their menstrual cycle will also determine the size of their chest – as hormones can play a key role in fluctuating breast size.
While it may not be anything major to worry about, it is a good idea to keep an eye on your weight, and if you think it’s getting out of control, see your doctor.
Being obese greatly increases a person’s chances of developing a range of deadly diseases.
It also increases your risk of developing womb cancer by a fifth.
If you’ve noticed a change in the size of your boobs, you may have gained or lost weight.

2. They’ve shrunk
If gaining weight makes your boobs bigger, it stands to reason that shedding pounds will shave inches off your chest measurement.
And while that’s not often a bad thing, it may not be the only reason for boob shrinkage.
If your lady lumps appear to be deflating, it could also be a sign your oestrogen levels are falling.
The female s3x hormone is responsible for breast growth in puberty.
Levels of the hormone fall naturally before a women goes through the menopause.
But if you are not about to go through the menopause and you’re not on medication that limits your oestrogen production, then it could be a sign of polycystic ovary syndrome.
The condition affects how a woman’s ovaries, which produce oestrogen, function.
It occurs when the sacs in which the ovaries sit are unable to release an egg, which means that ovulation doesn’t happen.
In these cases, becoming pregnant naturally is impossible, as no egg is released into the Fallopian tube ready to be fertilised.
It can also lead to an absence of periods.
The exact cause of the condition is unknown, but medics believe that high levels of testosterone – the male s3x hormone – could be to blame.
If a woman starts producing too much testosterone, it may throw off her oestrogen levels and cause her boobs to shrink.

9 things your BOOBS are saying about your health

3. Changing shape
The shape of your boobs is written in your DNA, but this will change over time.
Daniel Maman, a plastic surgeon who specialises in breast reduction, told Prevention: “Breast shape and appearance are largely based on age and history of child-bearing and breast-feeding.”

After breastfeeding, and as women age, the ligaments that hold breasts in place stretch, the connective tissue breaks down and skin loses its elasticity, so boobs will droop and change into a tear-drop shape.
The best way to avoid this is wearing a good-fitting bra, said Dr Maman.
Changes in shape could also be a sign of something far more serious.
If the outline or shape of your breasts changes, it could be a sign of cancer, according to the NHS.

4. Lumps and bumps
Some women have naturally occurring lumps and bumps.
Around the time of their menstrual cycle, hormonal changes can cause benign cysts to fill with fluid, especially around the underarm area.
But like changes in shape, lumps and bumps can also be a sign of cancer. If you notice and new bumps, thickening or bumpy areas in one breast or armpit – with or without pain – then you should see a doctor.
Often the first symptom of breast cancer is a lump in the breast, according to the NHS. Most lumps aren’t cancerous, but it is always best to have them checked.
Other signs of breast cancer to be aware of are dimpling of the skin, unusual rashes, swelling in the armpits or changes in the shape of your nipple.
Some women have dense breast tissue, which makes it harder to detect tumours in a mammogram because they both appear white

5. Dense tissue
Boobs are made of fatty tissue and fibrous breast tissue.
Many women have more fibrous tissue than fatty tissue, meaning their breasts are denser than others.
While this doesn’t pose any immediate threats to your health, it does make it harder for mammograms to accurately detect tumours or masses.
That’s because cancer and dense breast tissue show up as white on X-rays.
Women who have dense breast tissue also have an increased risk of breast cancer. They should have an ultrasound or MRI to check their boobs for any masses, and be diligent on self-examinations.

6) Aches and pains

Many things can cause pain in the boobs. Hormonal changes during the menstrual cycle can make them feel more sensitive. Also, a bad-fitting bra can also cause pain, as can strenuous exercise without the right support.

But pain can also be caused by the menopause or a cyst.

Cyclic hormonal pain is the most common type of breast pain, according to WedMD.

It usually occurs in both breasts and is described as heaviness or soreness that radiates to the arms and armpits, and is usually caused by hormones.

Non-cyclic pain is more common in women aged 30 to 50, and may only occur in one boob.

It can be a sharp, burning pain that occurs in one area.

Occasionally, it is caused by a fibroadenoma – a non-cancerous tumour or fluid-filled sac in the breast.

7. Inverted nipples

Some women naturally have inverted nipples.

But if you have always had nipples that poke out and they suddenly become inverted, it is a red flag for breast cancer.

Lauren Streicher, an associate clinical professor of obstetrics and gynaecology, told Prevention: The big issue is if you have new inversion. If you’ve always had ‘outies’ and one day you have ‘innies,’ get to the doctor right away because breast cancer is one cause of breast retraction.

An underactive thyroid can cause a hormone imbalance that can also cause discharge from the nipple

8. Discharge

It is normal for some women to have discharge from their nipples, especially after s3x.

But it can be a sign of a more serious health problem.

If you notice you have blood-stained discharge coming from your nipples you should see a GP immediately as it is a common sign of breast cancer.

Another cause of discharge is elevated levels of the hormone prolactin, which helps women produce milk when they are breastfeeding.

It can be a side effect of the Pill or other medication such as antidepressants, but it can also be a sign of a thyroid problem.

An underactive thyroid gland is where your thyroid gland doesn’t produce enough hormones.

Some women experience nipple discharge during s3x

Common signs of an underactive thyroid are tiredness, weight gain and feeling depressed.

It can also caused muscle aches, dry skin and hair, and weight gain.

In the worst-case scenario, nipple discharge could be a sign of a pituitary gland tumour.

The pituitary gland, which is about the size of a pea, and is located deep in the base of your brain, controls the secretion of hormones in the body.

It controls several hormone-secreting glands including the thyroid, adrenals and ovaries.

If you have a tumour on the pituitary gland, it can affect how hormones are released and, in turn, the body’s response to those hormones.

9. Different-coloured nipples

If you’ve noticed your nipples have changed colour and become puffier, then you could be pregnant.

Nipples become hyper-pigmented when a woman is pregnant.

The areola – the small circular area of coloured skin around the nipple – also stretches.

A change in colour can also happen as women age, with nipples usually becoming darker.

But it is important to remember that any change in colour can be a sign of breast cancer, so be sure to keep up with your regular checks and mammograms.

Source: The Sun UK

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Monday Motivation: Speaking life through gratitude

The effect of gratitude and power of thoughts can never be over-emphasized.

Speaking life through gratitude

It is very important for you to understand how powerful your feelings are. Sustained thoughts are powerful but thoughts with feelings have an invincible power.

In the morning, when my feet touches the ground from my bed, I say thank you. On my way to the bathroom, I say thank you. Before I touch my phone, I say thank you. I say and feel thank you as I prepare for my day – be it showering, eating, anything at all.

With that simple act, I am powerfully creating my day and all that it will contain. I am setting my frequency for the day and intentionally declaring the way I want my day to go.

Yesterday is past, Tomorrow and it’s worries are ahead. The most important part is Now, Today.

There is no more powerful way to begin your day. You are the creative director of you life so begin today by speaking what you want into action.

Intentionally create your day.

Do you know that the universe loves gratitude? As we start this fresh week, begin everyday of your life by giving thanks.

Look for things to be grateful for. Come to think of it, you don’t even have to. It’s all staring you in your face!

Begin each day with thank you and end it with thank you also.

Be grateful for all circumstances no matter what is going on around you. Trust me, it could have been worse but it isn’t. How dare you complain?!

When you live and radiate gratitude, you press the ON switch to the universe and it will deliver all good to you, matching the intensity of your gratitude.

Change your life today by changing your attitude.

Trust your weekend was worthwhile, have a great week ahead by starting your day the right way! Good morning.

Love Always… M.

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Sunday Inspiration: This life will go by fast

This life will go by fast - Inspiration for the day

This life will go by fast

Don’t fight with people, don’t criticize your body so much, don’t complain so much.

Don’t lose sleep over your bills. Look for the person that makes you happy. If you make a mistake, let it go and keep seeking your happiness.

Never stop being a good parent. Don’t worry so much about buying luxuries and comforts for your home, and don’t kill yourself trying to leave an inheritance for your family. Those benefits should be earned by each person, so don’t dedicate yourself to accumulating money

Enjoy, travel, enjoy your journeys, see new places, give yourself the pleasures you deserve. Allow dogs to get closer. Don’t put away the fine glassware. Utilize the new dinnerware; don’t save your favorite perfume, use it to go out with yourself; wear out your favorite sport shoes; repeat your favourite clothes.

So what? That’s not bad. Why not now? Why not pray now instead of waiting until before you sleep? Why not call now? Why not forgive now? We wait so long for Christmas; for Friday; for Reunions; for another year; for when I have money; for love to come; when everything is perfect…look…

Everything perfect doesn’t exist. Human beings can’t accomplish this because it simply was not intended to be completed here. Here is an opportunity to learn.

So take this challenge that is life and do it now…love more, forgive more, embrace more, love more intensely and leave the rest in God’s hands. Amen.

The beautiful message above credited to the Catholic Pontiff, Pope Francis is everything one needs to read. It is a gentle reminder of what life is about.

This life will go by fast - Inspiration for the day

Indeed this life will pass by quickly and all our wonderful plans will come to naught. So make good use of every living breath, live your life as if each day was your last and make great impacts, not forgetting to put everything into God’s hand.

Live, love, be happy and spread that positive energy to everyone around you.

Wishing you a fabulous Sunday and a great week ahead. Tis a time for smashing!

Love Always… M.

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Saturday Motivation: Just Focus 

Saturday Motivation: Focusing on your focus

Keep your head high no matter what happens.😱

You will be alright.💓

If the moment hurts, do not fall victim to its pain.🙇

Look ahead.💃

Focus on what can be.😎

Not what should have been😯

Focus on dreams.😇

You will make it.😈

Trust me, you will.😄

It’s crazy how easy it is to give up  but crazier if you don’t succumb to the times. Just gear up because the road is one long rough one.. But you know the beautiful thing?😰

It’s in you.💪

You’re definitely capable.🙌

Just Focus on your Focus.🙏

And make yourself proud.😂

Have a weekend full of happiness, sunshine and rainbows.😘 Good rainy morning.

Love Always… M

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Friday Motivation: Your greatest enemy is your last success

The greatest enemy of your potential is your last success. You could become so proud of what you’ve already accomplished that you stop moving ahead to what you can still accomplish ~ Myles Munroe.

Maximizing your potential, be all you can be - Myles Munroe

In other words, never trust what you have achieved. There is still more where that came from. Be all you can be!

Dr. Myles Munroe explained this extensively in his book, Maximizing your potential.

He said that the greatest threat to being all you could be is satisfaction with who you are. What you can do is always endangered by what you have done.

There are millions of individuals who have buried their latent talents, gifts, and abilities in the cemetery of their last accomplishment. They have settled for less than their best. I believe that the enemy of best is good, and the strength of good is the norm. The power of the norm is the curse of our society. It seems like the world is designed to make “the norm” comfortable and “the average” respectable.

Looking back, you would notice that the individuals who made history were those who dared to challenge and exceed the accepted norm. They created their own path and lived it to the fullest. Why follow a path when you can make a trail? You’ve got Potential!

Maximizing your potential, be all you can be

Ask yourself: Have I become all that I am capable of? Have I stretched myself to the maximum? Have I done the best that I can do? Have I used my gifts, talents, and abilities to their limit? Have I maximized my potential?

God created everyone with Potential and it will be sad to let yours go to waste instead of utilizing it to do something better for yourself and humanity. Even when you eventually do, don’t get too comfortable. Always, always strive to attain more.

Take for instance, your smartphone. There are many things this little device can do for you but some people only use it to make calls, take photos, send messages and play on social media. That is equivalent to untapped potential, you’re limiting the abilities of your phone because you are comfortable with the present workings.

But what if I tell you it can do a lot more?

We humans are like that too. We limit ourselves, we get too comfortable with our realities and when we’ve managed to attain one little success. We give ourselves pat on the back and rest.

When I was much younger, I came across an unbelievable funfact about the human brain that read: The human brain cell can hold five times as much information as the Encyclopedia Britannica. Or any encyclopedia for that matter.

Do you know what that means? Encyclopedia the book of everything you need to know on Earth. An individual can actually have all that saved in his/her head.
Most times when something is too difficult for me and I feel lazy, I just remember that statement and it jolts me like electric shock, making me aware that I can do it.

Plus the fact that I have succeeded in one, doesn’t mean I can’t succeed in another. Maximize your potential. Don’t let your previous success be a hindrance. Don’t get too comfortable, there are so much more where that came from.

You can be More. You can always do More.

I keep saying it, you are a mini-god, act like one!

Good morning dear mini-gods and goddesses, welcome to a brand new opportunity. Let’s get it right today!

Love Always… M.

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Health, Beauty and Lifestyle

Alert! Moi-moi cooked in nylon is poisonous and can cause cancer

A dietician and food expert, John Tehinse has warned Nigerians against cooking Moi-moi and other foods in nylons as it produced dioxins, a toxic substance that causes cancer.

Tehinse gave the warning on Tuesday in Kwara state at an awareness campaign on food safety organised by the Food Safety Awareness Campaign Initiatives, funded by the European Union.

In his lecture titled: “Food Safety Control System in Nigeria”, he noted that cooking Moi-moi in nylon despite being widespread is dangerous because nylons or cellophane bags produce dioxins when heated – which are a group of chemically-related compounds that are persistent environmental pollutants (POPs).

Tehinse further stated that dioxins were highly toxic and could cause reproductive and developmental problems, damage the immune system, interfere with hormones and also cause cancer.

He therefore advised people to use the traditional leaves to cook the staple meal.

Food business is not only to make money but a calling to protect public health and ensure what they offer to consumers is safe.

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Thursday Motivation: Perseverance, the power key to success

In our instant-gratification, short attention-span, multitasking world, we’ve lost sight of one core element of high achievement.   That element is perseverance – the power key to success.
Perseverance, the power key to success
The ability to keep on keeping on, even when our efforts are met with disappointment or failure, preserverance is a unique ability that can make all the difference in the world.

It comes from being committed to your goal, and from believing in yourself and in your goal’s possibility.  It borrows strength from resilience and optimism and brushes elbows with courage along the way. It translates to having a Whatever It Takes attitude.

Listen to the story of anyone who has reached a significant goal and you’ll hear a drama about someone who had to rebound from setback after setback along the way. There’s an old adage that says you can’t defeat a man who refuses to quit, and it’s as true today as when the words were first uttered.

Whether you’re working to master a skill that will qualify you for the next step up in your profession, controllong a business, maintaining a relationship or fielding interruptions from kids while you try to finish a household task, your success often hinges on your ability to refocus on your goal again and again. To give it one more try, and then another, and another still, is to walk the path that leads to achievement.

Angela Duckworth and her colleagues at the University of Pennsylvania identified a trait they call grit; a combination of perseverance and passion, the sustained and focused application of a talent over time.  And what their research indicates is that the quality that distinguished star performers in their respective fields was not necessarily talent, but exceptional commitment to ambitions and goals.

Perhaps more than any other quality, perseverance is what gets our projects out the door, lets us master our talents, and turns dreams into living, breathing realities. You might not be where you want to be yet but perseverance gets you closer to where you want to be.

However, perseverance does more for you than to help you master a skill or complete a project. As great as those achievements are, the ability to keep on keeping on serves you in other ways as well.

It makes you trustworthy in other people’s eyes. They know you won’t quit when an obstacle comes along. It increases your sense of self-worth to take full ownership of the goal you set out to achieve. You accept that your destiny is in your own hands. Your commitment to your goal enhances its value for you and heightens your motivation.

Besides leading you  to unexpected discoveries, it also expands your knowledge, both about yourself and the field of your endeavor.

Are you still keeping on despite what life throws at you? Do you feel whether it will be worth it at the end? Are you just fed up?

If yes to the above, then what you need is to cultivate the habit of perseverance. Define your goal and commit yourself totally to it. Treat it like your baby, visualize the end product and stay on it. Develop an unwavering attitude towards achieving your ambitions, goals and dreams.

It’s hard to defeat a man who has set his mind on a particular thing.

As you step out today, re-examine yourself and avail yourself the opportunity to do it right, one more time.

Good morning people, have a great day.

Love Always… M.

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Woah! Hairy nails exist now and they are absolutely scary (PHOTOS)

Brace yourself, because hairy nails are now a thing and I honestly don’t know how I feel about it. But I really appreciate the creativity.

Hairy nails are now a thing and it is a must see

Just when we were coming to terms with the bizarre squiggly eye and brow makeup, then comes the hairy nails!

Hairy nails are now a thing and it is a must see

They were created by a Korean visual illusion artist and internet sensation, Dain Yoon known for making mind-bending body art, but her latest creations is beyond crazy and might just be the most bizarre yet.

Not only has she painted five little portraits of herself onto her fingernails; she’s also added an extra feel make each of the faces look lifelike – hair!

Would you try it? View various photos below:

Hairy nails are now a thing and it is a must see

Hairy nails are now a thing and it is a must see

Hairy nails are now a thing and it is a must see

Hairy nails are now a thing and it is a must see

Hairy nails are now a thing and it is a must see

Photocredits: @designdain

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Wednesday Motivation: Having a W-I-T attitude towards life

WIT meaning Whatever It Takes!

Having a whatever it takes attitude towards life

Attitude is everything and developing WIT alongside with it is only going to make you succeed in life.

Having a whatever it takes attitude is being assured of what you want to do, going ahead to do it and committing everything to see it come to life. A Whatever It Takes attitude also means being ready and willing to accept change.

We make changes and take risks althrough our lives – starting a relationship, marriage, investing in a new business, switching careers, relocating, abandoning our jobs, divorce, driving, meeting people, taking public transport – it’s all part of living and very necessary too.

News Flash: If you’re not making changes and taking risks in some aspects of your life, you are probably in a rut which is responsible for your bad attitude towards life.

When I wanted to venture into a new line of business some few years ago, I made the biggest mistake of telling my close pals about it without assuring myself first. I made strategic plans and my excitement about the whole thing made me blurt it out but somehow everyone I told pierced holes in my plan.

Ah, you will not make it. Alot of people are already into that line of business, how will you survive? How will you get customers? 

These were some of the questions they plagued me with and because I had not equipped myself properly, I didn’t have a Whatever It Takes attitude. I was weak. And just like a sky candle, my business plan fizzled away.

I was not equipped mentally, physically and I was not ready to accept the risk that would come with the change. Hence, a little discouragement threw me off balance.

Having a whatever it takes attitude towards life

In 1879, Western Union said of the telephone; “This telephone has too many shortcomings to be seriously considered as a means of communication” but 141 years later, it’s still in use and is the most important means of communication. Why? Because the phone guys had a whatever it takes attitude, despite the bad review from a giant company.

In his book, Attitude is everything, Keith Harrell highlighted that in taking the giant leap, you have to leave many doubt and doubters behind. Make wise decisions and take risks when they offer to improve the quality of your life.

Risks are unavoidable but we have a choice about how we view changes in our life inorder to lessen the negative consequences.

Always be on the alert for change. Be ready to make the transition. See changes as opportunities not threats.

Understand that the process of change begins with examination of your conscience. Ask yourself:

Do I have what it takes? How much is it going to hurt? Will my actions produce the results I need?

When you sincerely provide answers to these, then you can go ahead with whatever you want to do.

Good morning. It’s another day to have a re-think and restructure your life in the right direction. Examine yourself and set out on that which you’ve been wanting to do. Start building yourself to have a whatever it takes attitude, it will definitely come in handy. Have a productive day.

Love Always… M.

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Tuesday Motivation: How to be mentally strong 

Are you feeling overwhelmed? Is everything becoming too much? Get some useful tips on how to be mentally strong to face them all.

13 ways on how to be mentally strong

Sadly  nobody is born with the ability to be mentally strong. It’s an art we learn. Either by means of past experiences or life just deals us a hard blow – the harshness of reality.

Nevertheless, being mentally strong is a necessity. Just like drinking water is essential for your body. As you build your body to be physically strong, you also have to build your brain.

What does it mean to be mentally strong?

Aurora.com defines mental strength as the ability to not complain, not waiting for someone else to pass the torch to, using failure as an appetizer for success. Mental strength also means seeing things through and then, doing it all over again and again and again.

In simpler terms, it means knowing what you want, being completely responsible for your actions and accepting the consequences that come with it. Ability to withstand anything life throws at you.

Ways to achieve that as an individual include the following:

1) Don’t fear alone time. Learn to enjoy your company.

2) Don’t dwell on the past. Nobody ever moved forward by remaining in the past. Let it go.

3) Do not feel as if the world owes you. It doesn’t, move on!

13 ways on how to be mentally strong

4) Don’t expect immediate results. Bear in mind that it is always a gradual process especially for something worthwhile.

5) Don’t worry about pleasing everyone. Do the best you can and be happy with yourself

6) Don’t waste time feeling sorry for yourself. It doesn’t help in any way and it would definitely not provide a solution.

7) Don’t waste energy on things you can’t control. Keep it going, funny enough, those things have a way of sorting themselves out.

8) Don’t let others influence your emotions. You are in charge, selectively filter what others say.

9) Dont resent other people’s success. When you’re happy for others, you’re invariably calling good things to yourself.

10) Dont shy away from responsibilities. They build you up.

11) Don’t give up after the first failure. Keep trying.

12) Don’t run away from taking calculated risks. If not, success will be very far from you.

13) Quit over-thinking. Don’t waste time worrying about what should have been, what is happening or what could happen. Accept each day as they come, one thought at a time.

All these tips listed above will help you to be mentally strong and own your territory. You would also exude confidence, more people will be attracted and more people will be willing to associate with you because it sets you apart.

And for those of us who are already mentally strong, a re-examination will probably make you better at the game.

Such a wonderful Tuesday to be alive, don’t waste it on mediocrity. Be you, be great. Good morning people.

Love Always… M.

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Nigerian MUA creates lovely makeup with Pepsi drink (PHOTOS)

Atleast, this is better than the squiggly makeup art.

Nigerian MUA uses Pepsi for face makeup

A Nigerian makeup artist, identified as Winifred Chika-Ezeagu has gone really creative with her makeup prowess after she used the colours of popular beverage, Pepsi to make a statement on her face.
And it turned out beautiful.

Nigerian MUA uses Pepsi for face makeup

Nigerian MUA uses Pepsi for face makeup

Nigerian MUA uses Pepsi for face makeup

Nigerian MUA uses Pepsi for face makeup

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Hoping to get an ambassadorial deal from the company, she pleaded with her friends to tag them.

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Health, Beauty and Lifestyle

Squiggly ‘wavy’ makeup is starting to trend and photos of them will make you uncomfortable 

Squiggly makeup

​Just like Olamide Badoo sang, they are definitely on a wavy level. Lol

It seems like every time we come on social media especially Instagram, someone is always trying to start a new beauty trend and they usually range from outright bold to just bizarre.

As if it wasn’t weird enough that squiggly brows became a thing sometime last week, ladies have taken the squiggly business to the lips.

If this isn’t a sign of the end times then I really don’t know what it is.

Squiggly makeup

And Yes, it looks exactly like it sounds; lips and brows shaped like two connected squiggly lines.

However, they have been received with hilarious reactions all over with nobody in her right mind wanting to try it out.

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Squiggly makeup

Squiggly makeup

Squiggly makeup

Squiggly makeup

Squiggly makeup

I don’t know about you but I hope it dies off as easy as it came out I’m the first place.

What are your thoughts about this?

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Health, Beauty and Lifestyle

Exposed! Why ‘Runs girls’ end up with good guys and decent girls settle for average guys

Black ladies and men

Self-acclaimed relationship expert and psychologist, Joro Olumofin, has revealed the reason why runs girls and retired runs girls end up with eligible bachelors while decent girls settle for average guys.

He indicated that the reason is because runs girl have equipped themselves on how to please a man s3xually and they also take care of their body, given that it’s their source of livelihood.

Meanwhile, decent girls spend more time equipping themselves educationally and hardly see the need to please the opposite s3x, coupled with their plenty terms and conditions.

His words:

It’s so sad that “Runs Girls” or “Retired Runs girls” get the Good Guys & Eligible Bachelors while most Decent ladies wait and wait for average guys….

Why is this so? 

Based on Direct Observation and survey from thousands of emails sent to me daily by people mostly Nigerians of all works and ages. I’ve gathered that Most men fall for Runs girls and ladies who have a Runs girl mindset.

Who is a runs Girl? A Runs girl is any lady who uses her beauty and looks as a tool to get money from men. Mostly older men. It’s a more flamboyant way of Prostitution. Let’s just say Very classy educated prostitutes. The question remains , why would a Successful Eligible bachelor go for a runs girl instead of a decent lady? The answer is in the approach to mans Cognitive Framework ; his mentality. A runs girl has a “Phd” in knowing how to please a man, what a man wants s3xually, what a man likes, her body and mind is a moving encyclopedia filled with ways to please a man. A runs girl takes so much care of her body and private parts because these body parts pay the bills. While a Decent girl is busy equipping herself mentally, occupationally paying little attention to Social media followers. A decent girl doesn’t see the need to please a man, a decent girl is looking for a man to please her emotionally & romantically , be a companion and meet her halfway. A decent girl seems very difficult for most men, she has so many rules, terms and conditions. She doesn’t have the time to feed a Mans Ego and make him feel like a king because she knows she’s a Queen. Runs girls have allowed men to run wild and free, without any rules. Men can do and undo as long as a Runs Girl is getting her money , birkin bags and Dubai tickets she’s happy. When a man has gotten so many ladies for cheap, he will never have the patience to go through the TERMS & CONDITIONS of a Decent Girl.

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Do you really agree with this?

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Daily Motivation

Monday Motivation: Good things come to those who hustle

Things may come to those who wait, but only the things left by those who hustle ~ Abraham Lincoln.

Motivation: Good things come to those who hustle

For me, that is equal to nothing because you will be living off another man’s leftovers. Eeew, how unfulfilling can that be?!

That is why you have to stop lazying about and get to work now. The problem with most of us is that we think we have time but the occurrences in life should already prove otherwise to you. There is no time!

Even if you think that there is time, it waits for nobody. Time is the most fleeting thing in existence, the earlier you realize that, the earlier you stop wasting your time and get busy.

Besides the fleeting time, there are other factors like your age, health, environment. As you grow older, your overall body health depreciates. So why spend the better part of your productive years being idle?

The game has change, there is no ‘fattest bone’ for the patient dog anymore.
Yo’ve got to set the pace for others to follow. Make your name known and create an impact irrespective of fear or other inhibitions you may be nurturing.

Good thing, the sky is big enough for everyone to shine in it.

Don’t put off today what you can do actually do today.

Motivation: Good things come to those who hustle

I once had the opportunity to go for a clearance sale. You know how rough and crowded those sales can always be. Who doesn’t like discounts? So I got to the place very early (in order to get the best of the items), but other people also planned to be early birds so imagine my shock already seeing a sizeable crowd which grew while we were still waiting for shop owners to come.

Finally, they did and opened the doors but somehow, I fidgeted and thought ‘oh, why not wait till the crowd reduce, then you shop in peace’. But guess what, when that happened, I shopped in peace alright but I was buying nothing.

All the good stuff had already been snatched off by the hustlers. I, who was waiting for a convenient time ended up with leftovers. You get the drift now?

So choose where you want to belong today. Are you the waiter or the grabber?

It’s Monday people, the beginning of a new week. Time to set those goals in motion and right what you have been doing wrong.

Remember, the aim is not to be the first but to stand out and be the best! Top of the morning to you all.

Love Always… M.

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Sunday Inspiration: Be Strong for I am with you

God’s promises…

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How do you see God?

When you think about God, what comes to mind?

Do you ever feel him talking to you?

In the days of old, God spoke to his people directly. He appeared in different forms though; some in the dream, some in natural occurrence like the gentle breeze and burning bush. Some in visions or hallucinations.

And thus, He spoke to Joshua following the death of Moses, commanding him to leave the land he is familiar with, take over from where Moses stopped and lead his people.

Like a regular human, Joshua was terrified of the future and the huge responsibilities placed on his shoulders that would come with the new assignment but God promised him and admonished him, just like He is admonishing us today.

In Joshua 1:9, it is written:

Have I not commanded you? Be strong and be of good courage (courageous). Do not be terrified. Do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.

Note His words: Command. Strong. Courageous. Terrified. Discouraged. Constant guidance.

Whatever you’re going through, the Almighty God is definitely with you. Even though, it might not seem so especially in times of despair, troubles, sufferings but He is ever there in the midst of all our life happenings.

If we can feel him in joy, why can’t we also experience him in sadness. He is always there.

He is commanding us today to be strong and courageous, he is telling us to let go of all our fears, discouragement for he is with us wherever we go.

Trust Him completely and believe He is in charge. In good time, you will understand why you had to go through all you did.

Liken yourself to a diamond that has to undergo intense stress to come out exceptionally beautiful.

I wish you a very glorious Sunday and a fabulous week ahead. Start it right by starting with God. Good morning.

Love Always… M.

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Saturday Motivation: Breathing life into your dreams


Dreams are free but it costs so much to make them a reality and that’s where goals come in.

A goal is an objective, a purpose and a mission.

Some people just have dreams; their imaginations are wild and they think of all the wonderful things they can be. That is very okay but without putting these dreams in motion, it’s just another exaggerated thought. You have to make plans, make sacrifices and set things in place inorder to accomplish your dreams.

Goals. Having goals are what makes your dreams come to life. It’s pretty simple. Whatever your dream is, look for possible ways to bring it out of your mind and bring it to the world. Take the bold step and let go of your inhibitions.

It’s just like saying you want to be a world class actress and everyday you reassure yourself of that, but you never work on it. No acting classes. No auditions. No coaching. No planning. You just sit at home and pet yourself with your dreams, sorry to shock you darling but you might just die with your dream which should have otherwise blessed the world.

Like award-winning actress, Lupita Nyong’o said; no matter where you are, no matter what you do. Your dreams are valid!

Oh Yes, they are valid but you need to breathe life into them to stand out and make a difference. And also dream bigger!

Let everything you do each day take you closer to actualizing your dreams and accomplishing your goals.
It’s the weekend that we’ve all being waiting for. Be sure to have fun with whatever you find yourself doing. Have a wonderful one. Good morning people.

Love Always… M.

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Friday Motivation: You are enough


I woke up feeling empty!

But that didn’t last for long because I knew exactly what to do to pump up myself.
I reminded myself of how awesome I am, how today is another beautiful day to get things right and how happiness is in my hands.

So, I decided to be happy and enjoy what my day has to offer.

You know, I’ve come to realize that you decide what type of day you’re going to have; every morning you wake up, you decide to be happy. Don’t just leave your day in the hands of people, circumstances or the turn of events that will follow. Be in charge and set the right pace for the day.

We might be facing what seems too big for us to handle, we might be at the end of our ropes, we might not be ‘feeling life’ at the moment or just simply tired of everything.

But I’m reminding you today that you are good enough..

Stop worrying if you’re cool enough, strong enough, rich enough or smart enough. The most important thing is that you are enough.

Worrying only robs and deprives us of today, it doesn’t make tomorrow any better either. So stop it!

Take a deep breath now and know that you are enough.

Have a funfilled Friday as you prepare for the weekend.

Love Always… M

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Entertainment Gist, Health, Beauty and Lifestyle

My father has been testing my virginity for the past 21 years, I don’t know what to do now...


A young lady has cried out to relationship blogger, Joro Olumofin, over her father’s strictness in conducting virginity tests on her every year at the hospital.
The 21-year-old who is in her 300 level in the university claims her father is keeping a close watch on her s3x life because he wants her to remain a virgin until marriage since according to him, ‘virgins’ bride price are usually expensive’.

Now the young lady has tasted the forbidden fruit and is now confused of what to do as her next testing date is drawing nigh.

Read her mail below:

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Thursday Motivation: Staying focused and directing your energy

Staying focused….the postage stamp way!

Even though, it is out of use due to the advent of social media technology, the postage stamp then had only one job to do and it did it exceptionally well.

Normally employed to send letters across cities, states and countries, the postage stamp does not try to accomplish any other goal except for the one that was assigned to it. It has laser focus. It will not sleep until it finishes its one job.

What about you?

In life, you get what you focus on. This rule applies to every endeavor in your life whether it’s starting a business, getting customers, starting a relationship, getting a loan, investors, or wanting to get married, where your attention goes, energy flows. What you focus on, expands.

Why is this important?

Because ultimately, your focus drives everything you do. It drives your thoughts, which leads to your feelings and emotions which determine how you will live your life.
If you focus on negative things, you are unwittingly inviting negativity into your life.

You will notice that when you focus on the negative things in your life, more negative things will occur so you can focus on them. That’s how it works. You get in life what you focus on. If you focus on pain, more painful things will happen so you can continue to focus on it.

But, thank goodness, the opposite is also true. If you focus on the positive things in life, you will find more positive things happening to and around you.

If you focus on happy times, joy, love and the good times, invariably your life becomes easier and enjoyable irrespective of the things going on around you. 

It’s just the natural flow of things.

Remember also that success comes not by doing something occasionally but by doing it consistently and this means focus.
Focusing on that which drives you, getting a mission and living it, every hour of every day.

Dont be the jack of all trades, master of none.

Concentrate on one thing and master your art till there is no one that can do it better than you. The aim is not to be first, but to stand out and be the best.

This, you can only achieve by concentrating on your focus. Wherever you direct your attention to, energy flows in abundance.

Have a beautiful Thursday, filled with sunshine and hope for a new beginning. Good morning people.

Love Always… M.

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All about Celebrities, Health, Beauty and Lifestyle

‘Women are the cause of cheating in relationships and marriages’ – Toke Makinwa

Popular media personality and author, Toke Makinwa has attributed the cause of cheating among men to women.

​This, she said in a recent edition of Moments girl talk, where she and her co-hosts Bolanle and Tallula as well as guests, singers Toni Tones and Peeshuan, deliberated on the topic, ‘Why Men Cheat’, .

During the discussion, Toke gave her views stating that all men cheat and in Africa, cheating is celebrated instead of being rebuked.

The media personality who got separated from her estranged husband, Maje Ayida, after he got his side chic, Anita Solomon pregnant in 2015, said men who are not even cheating have been pressured to have flings outside their committed relationships. 

Speaking further, Toke opined that women are the cause of cheating because you find mothers who know that their sons have five girlfriends, welcoming all of them without rebuking them. 

Some women are the problem. Your son has four, five girlfriends. You know them, you smile in their faces.We live in a society and the culture that we have unfortunately believes that cheating is….you can’t sue a man for cheating in this country. 

“If the man is selling and we are not buying, he would stop. We, women, are the problem. You find a man cheat on his wife cheat on his wife and you find reasons to make excuses for why he cheated. Maybe she wasn’t sleeping with him, Maybe she wasn’t unhappy, maybe she is a witch. I have had that been said to me. I have been cheated on publicly and I never saw women come out to say you know what, what this man did was wrong. You find them say is she the only one? What’s the big deal? Guess what, your child would go through it.

She also added that cheating would be reduced if women shame their friends who date married men.

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Around the World, Health, Beauty and Lifestyle

Woman with 34 grandchildren, 31 great grandkids and 5 great great grandkids turns 100 in style (PHOTOS)

Inarguably, one of the oldest women alive, Helena Esau from Surrey Estate celebrated her 100th birthday and her community surprised her with the mother of all birthday cakes.

The cake reportedly measured 1mx1.5m, making Helena smile as she welcomed the extraordinary gift.

We wanted to do something really huge for her on her 100th birthday. We looked around and thought that a cake that big would be good enough for the occasion.

Says Sorprite.

Helena appreciated the gift and celebrated with her community in a colorful birthday full of excitement. Her 60-year-old daughter, Johanna Solomons, was perhaps the most excited of all.
My mom’s happiness means a lot to me. I am very happy to see that she is happy. I feel truly blessed to still have my mom at my age.

Helena Esau has been remarkably blessed, being alive at 100 with her 34 grandchildren, 31 great-grandchildren and five great-great-grandchildren.

Although, she’s been confined to a wheelchair and reportedly spends most of her days reading newspapers and books.

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Around the World, Health, Beauty and Lifestyle

Meet the Catholic nun who raps for a living, see the song she composed for the pope (VIDEO)


Sister Maria Valentina from Columbia is part of a group of nuns who use the media, online videos and songs to spread their religious message. For her, rap is a way of praising God.

She is all set to welcome the Catholic pontiff, Pope Francis to Columbia today and showcase her craft to him.

Below is a short documentary by BBC news where she rapped the song she composed for the pope:

Meet the rapping nun who’s going to give Pope Francis a very special welcome to Colombia. Sister Maria Valentina is part of a group of nuns who use online videos and songs to spread their religious message. Pope Francis flies into Colombia later this week. #religion #hope #christian #talent #rap #pope #colombia #bogota #dance #music #hiphop #faith

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Daily Motivation

Wednesday Motivation: Making your actions louder

Can you pour out from an empty cup? Can you give someone what you don’t have? What message are your actions passing across?

Your actions are your powerful thoughts, so if you do not treat yourself with respect, you are emitting a signal that is saying you are not important enough, worthy enough or deserving.

That signal will continue to be broadcast and you will experience more situations of people mistreating you, and it’s entirely your fault, nor theirs!

Remember, you are totally responsible for your life, you alone! Every other person is just a spectator. Whatever you give them to watch, is what they will watch and remember you for.

The people are just the effect. Your thoughts are the cause. Remember the law of cause and effect?

Hence, you must begin to treat yourself with love and respect and emit that signal to get on the right frequency.

Then the law of attraction will come into action and your life will be full of people who genuinely love and respect you.

Today is another chance to get it right, irrespective of how it has been in the past.

Goodluck on your journey to getting it right!

Top of the morning to you all, have a fantastic day.

Love Always… M.

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Tuesday Motivation: Playing with your Natural Born Abilities 

Natural Born Abilities (NBA), are those special qualities that distinctinctly set you apart from the next person.

There is so much unlimited wonder and magnificence that awaits you if you can just let go and let it into your life.

The Universe cannot express itself through you if you are busy with your little life plans.

Understand that there is a huge difference between inspired action and busying yourself with activity in order to make things happen. That is why everything is hard, feels like a struggle and is unproductive.

You feel exhausted, things begin to wrong and you start nurturing the thoughts that the universe is working against you. Well, maybe it is! Because you are obviously wasting precious time on things that are not for you.

You dwell in this illusion that you’ve created for yourself but guess what, sooner or later, reality sets in and stares you blank in the face. And if you’re not careful, you wallow into self-pity and start the blame game. ‘Why me’?!

Yes, it is you because you failed to be conscious about your efforts. You failed to critically understand what you want or the working process. You neglected your Natural born abilities and got carried away, you failed to make plans. You forgot to check if that particular things suits your personality. Heck, you forgot to put yourself first. So, that’s why it is you!

Although, we can all prevent that when we choose to become intentional about our life. Let every single thing you do have a useful meaning to it and if it doesn’t, then it’s not worth doing.

If it doesn’t motivate, entertain, educate and you (or provide for you) and those around you, then you need to have a rethink.

You can’t just jump into everything you see. Because it’s working for your neighbour doesn’t mean it will work for you. Because your friend is flourishing in that line, you want to join in too.
Everybody has -maybe not- an equal opportunity but a good shot at it in life so use yours wisely with purposeful intent.

It’s never to late to retrace your steps and start being intentional so that you will put yourself in the right position for the universe to express its big plans through you.

Happy restructuring your life.
Good morning and have a most fruitful day.

Love Always.. M.

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